A quick blog to emphasize something that has been very important in my relationship and that I have not noted, enough. Some months ago, I did a share of a meme that said a good relationship is one where you and your relationship partner are on the same side of problems, not opposing sides with blame.
In past relationships, I've been there... I'm sure many have. It's honestly a symptom more than a cause, I think. However, you feel in those situations like you're trying to find blame .. whose fault was this or that. It's a symptom that love is not as present as it could be.
In my current relationship, we're not like that. I love her. That means that if she has an obstacle or a problem, it is not a blame. It is a need. If I love her.. which I do.. then that is MY need, as well.
If you recognize that every challenge on each side is, therfore, a challenge for both and neither is a blame, it naturally results in a very relationship building exercise.
As this is not noted enough, I thought it worthy to note, here. We should be our partner's safe space.. not their accuser. I hope this realization will benefit you in your life, as it has in mine.
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