As I get more and more into a truly functional relationship for the first time in my life, I have to rewrite many wrong lessons I learned from the prior ones. Probably the most significant is learning what it is like to be in a safe space.
Its not something I feel the need to learn to do and receive. It is a natural product of real love that I feel and am given. Yet, from time to time I feel the need to apologize for some small failure that was out of my control, only to have the other person patient and undemanding. It's a great feeling, and it is the thing above all else that has allowed us to get this close. We trust in each other, and we adjust to each other.
I saw a meme a few weeks back that said it's not you vs your mate but you and your mate vs the problem. I like that. That's how it is. If you truly love someone, you feel for them in their struggle and even in your conflicts, and your goal is not to win but to care for each other. That's the best outcome to any situation.
So, this blog is just saying this. Find connections where you can be absolutely honest, openly compassionate, patient and loving. Provide safety for them, and receive the security they provide. And, without noticing, you'll find yourself deep in the middle of the best LOVE relationship you've had in your life.
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