My friends and online acquaintances have to think I am crazy. I tend to speak about whatever I like, even if it offends some people.. especially in some cases. Think of me like SNL.. if I haven't offended you about something, yet.. give it time. So, they have to think I don't understand that keeping that inside will attract more friends.. or more. But, I'm very aware.
First of all, my goal in life is not "or more." I've been there, done that. I know better than most how to act in a way that people would accept me. I've had many successful dates and two marriages (I could give Ryan Reynolds a run for his money), but I learned long ago that getting someone on a false image or muted one will end up causing problems when the real me comes out. To be fair, they also didn't give an accurate depiction of themselves, either.
And, friends is similar, except you can generally be friends with someone that only shares a few interests and limited to those interests. You don't have to approve of the rest, because why would you? In the case of those that would bail at my differing opinion, I want to give them ample opportunity to leave. Someone left my friends list in the last week. I don't know who, as they were not a closer connection, but I've lost closer connections at times, as well. Better to establish that as early as possible.
So... yeah. I don't shy away from stating my opinions and criticisms. Some Christians will only be friends with or date other Christians. So, there's nothing wrong with non Christians doing the same, and the way that you attract those kinds of friends or those ok with you as you is to be yourself. So, don't hide yourself. You'll end up hurting your own goals could even end up having to live a life not as yourself just to please someone who was only into your illusion. Speak up. You'll feel better, and the results will be closer to what you desire.
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