Free to Be Happy

Not the blog post I was expecting to write, but it's one necessary to be written in our age and with the last year of falsehoods and anger and even violence that results from the ignorance.  I have had experience and learning and considering on the subject, both from my child and from my own exploration and consideration on the subject.  

My child is no longer reading my posts, and my exploration determined it was not necessary or accurate to change, so neither is fueling this, but I tend to rise up when I see oppression... so, here's several things I learned about gender and transgender.  I'm not saying it to criticize anyone... my estimation is most people never gave these points a thought, because it didn't apply to them and makes them feel uncomfortable to think some of their foundational "truths" are as shallow as following the crowd.  But... here we go.

The loudly spoken objection to transgender is that someone is messing with "God given nature" of the body that was given to them.  Except... we literally do that all the time.  Women and men of a certain age take hormones to help them look and feel like they want, and ESPECIALLY if they want to enjoy SEX.  Women after a hysterectomy take hormones.  Men after other operations take hormones.  Children born with birth defects have surgeries done to change their God given bodies, and the pharmaceutical industry is based on changing what your body is literally doing on its own.  So.. if restricting treatments that is against nature is our goal, we have a lot to restrict.

Ok.. so what about the appearance issue?  That's actually more easily dismissed.  Do you know that many celebrities and politicians and news people that are men wear makeup?  Often, they'll wear more than your average woman, in fact.  Not only do Scottish men wear dresses (kilts) but for literally thousands of years, so did men... including Jesus, very likely.  That's just what was normal.  And EVERY play until very recently was only done by men, meaning kings and queens and villages watched Shakespeare and others' works watching men in drag for women's roles.  If we are going to teach kids true history, we'd need to mention that.

Well, aren't they going to attack women in bathrooms to have sex?  Not to put too fine a point on it, but very likely they and the other women in the bathrooms have the same gender target of sexual attraction.  Transgender women wouldn't be attracted to women, very often.  And for the rare exceptions,  I could point to gay examples that exist, as well.

I could go on and on... I put quite a lot of time into the subject... realizing most of our "differences" are semantics and very fine... women carry a purse, men a briefcase or backpack, women and men both value shoes, how their butt looks, wanting to be desired, etc... but I'll just end with this.

Why is it so important to criticize how someone ELSE lives their lives if it doesn't impact you?  Wasn't that the anti Vax argument?  Live and let live.  Find your own path to happiness that doesn't include stopping others that are often not a good fit in their birth gender from being happy in another.